What does the Bible say about divorce?

[Cheryl Staal]

Reader Question: What does the Bible say about divorce?

This is such a difficult topic. I will try to answer it as briefly and with just the word of God. Since His word is our final authority.


Malachi 2:16, “I hate divorce says the Lord God.” This is what God thinks about it. I agree with Him. It tears our souls in half and causes terrific pain in each person involved.

The Bible gives two possible reasons for divorce: 1. sexual immorality Matthew 5:32; 19:9, and 2. if an unbelieving spouse leaves the believing spouse. 1 Corinthians 7:15. Just because these two reasons are mentioned does not mean God desires a divorce to occur. God instead points us to forgiveness, restoration, and healing of our hearts and marriage.
The most that can be said is that sexual immorality and abandonment are “allowances” for divorce. Confession, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration are always the first steps. Divorce should only be viewed as a last resort.

For safety issues: If a wife is in a relationship with a husband who physically abuses her and/or their children, the wife should definitely separate herself and the children from the abusive husband, with the goal of repentance, forgiveness, restoration and healing, not necessarily immediately beginning divorce proceedings.

Please understand, by not including abusive relationships as Biblical grounds for divorce; I am definitely not saying that a man/woman whose spouse is engaging in such activities should remain in the situation. If there is any risk to self or to children, separation for safety sake is a good and appropriate step, followed by good, sound Christian marriage counseling. If counselors are not available for you, seek out an older married Christian couple to help guide and counsel in difficult situations.[b][/b][b][/b]